Showing posts with label Confraternity of Penitents. Show all posts
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Wednesday, July 1, 2015

Gadgets and the Confraternity of Penitents Rule

Question on Gadgets and CFP Rule:
Dear CFP,
I have been working to simplify my life and cut back on my unnecessary purchases. My question is, I really want a new gadget that just came out (I've always been a fan of technology, though I have stopped buying the latest and greatest), and I have been really wrestling with whether or not buying it is contrary to the Rule of the Confraternity of Penitents. It would be a luxury... it is not something I need. It is a want. That said, it is something I would use every day. If I were to get it, I would buy the cheapest version available. 

I have talked to my spiritual director about it and he says he think it is not a problem. My wife doesn't think it is a problem either, and she wants me to have it as a gift. Still, I am struggling with whether or not a luxury like this is contrary to the rule, which I do take seriously. I don't want to be worldly and materialistic. I have prayed about it, but can't seem to come to a conclusion. What do you think?

Thank you for your advice!
.
S. (Novice 1)
Answer on Gadget and the Rule of the Confraternity of Penitents

Thanks for the question. Here are some thoughts:

We are to have the least sophisticated and amount of appliances necessary. But you said this was not necessary but something you want, maybe even a gift, something you would use daily. I don't know what this is and it is probably not sinful to have it, but it may not fit the spirit of our Rule in the area of simplicity.

I would think that, if you are wrestling with having this, then something inside is saying not to have it. I would not suggest going against the Holy Spirit Who may be saying "no" here. If you don't need this item, then it would be spiritually safest, in my opinion, to follow the inner block against having it. The prompting to get this seems to be coming from you and not from God, and we don't want to make idols out of ourselves and our desires. That's what worldly people do and we are trying to get beyond that lowest level and rise to Someone higher. Therefore, to get this gadget could be against God's Will for you as He does not seem to be prompting you to get it. Rather the Holy Spirit seems to be causing you to ask about getting it which means that you have doubts about whether or not to get it at all. We should not take an unnecessary course of action unless we know that God is asking us to do this, and that does not seem to be the case here.

How about taking whatever you would have spent on this gadget and giving it to a charity?

I hope this helps. God bless, M, CFP

Reply from S

Thank you! Your answer was very helpful. I believe you are correct---I am struggling with this and seeking advice because deep down I know it isn't God's will. I think this is the struggle of penance...sacrificing things, even legitimate things, for the higher good of seeking God with all my heart. The problem is, the "old man" doesn't want to die so easily.

This has been very healthy for me. For the first time in my life, I am questioning desires that I used to consider harmless, but that were holding me back spiritually. I've always struggled with being materialistic, and I think our Lord is teaching me that I need to find my happiness in him alone. Thank you again, truly.


Peace in Christ,

S

Monday, June 22, 2015

Life Pledge, Patrick Joseph Wheeler, CFP

The Confraternity of Penitents rejoices at the Life Pledge of Patrick Joseph Wheeler, June 20, 2015. CFP Visitor Father Jacob Meyer received Patrick's pledge to live the CFP Rule and Constitutions for Life. We reproduce Father Jacob's homily here along with photos of Patrick's pledging and celebration thereafter. Thanks be to God for the grace of Patrick's pledge.

Patrick Wheeler answers "present" at the beginning of the Pledging Ceremony




Therefore, that I might not become too elated,
a thorn in the flesh was given to me, an angel of Satan,
to beat me, to keep me from being too elated.
Three times I begged the Lord about this, that it might leave me,
but he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you,
for power is made perfect in weakness.” (2 Corinthians 12: 7-9)

R. (9a) Taste and see the goodness of the Lord.
The angel of the LORD encamps
around those who fear him, and delivers them.
Taste and see how good the LORD is;
blessed the man who takes refuge in him.
R.
Taste and see the goodness of the Lord.
Fear the LORD, you his holy ones,
for nought is lacking to those who fear him.
The great grow poor and hungry;
but those who seek the LORD want for no good thing.
R.
Taste and see the goodness of the Lord.
Come, children, hear me;
I will teach you the fear of the LORD.
Which of you desires life,
and takes delight in prosperous days?
R.
Taste and see the goodness of the Lord. (PS 34:8-9, 10-11, 12-13)

 
Patrick making his pledge and Father Jacob receiving it. Witnesses Madeline Pecora Nugent, CFP (left) and Lucy Fernandez, CFP (right)




R. Alleluia, alleluia.
Jesus Christ became poor although he was rich,
so that by his poverty you might become rich.
R. Alleluia, alleluia. (2 Cor. 8:9)

Jesus said to his disciples:
“No one can serve two masters.
He will either hate one and love the other,
or be devoted to one and despise the other.
You cannot serve God and mammon.

“Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life,
what you will eat or drink,
or about your body, what you will wear.
Is not life more than food and the body more than clothing?
Look at the birds in the sky;
they do not sow or reap, they gather nothing into barns,
yet your heavenly Father feeds them.
Are not you more important than they?
Can any of you by worrying add a single moment to your life-span?
Why are you anxious about clothes?
Learn from the way the wild flowers grow.
They do not work or spin.
But I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor
was clothed like one of them.
If God so clothes the grass of the field,
which grows today and is thrown into the oven tomorrow,
will he not much more provide for you, O you of little faith?
So do not worry and say, ‘What are we to eat?’
or ‘What are we to drink?’ or ‘What are we to wear?’
All these things the pagans seek.
Your heavenly Father knows that you need them all.
But seek first the Kingdom of God and his righteousness,
and all these things will be given you besides.
Do not worry about tomorrow; tomorrow will take care of itself.
Sufficient for a day is its own evil.” (Mt 6: 24-34)


The signing of Patrick's life pledge



My joy could not be more for you this day, Patrick, and not only for you and the Confraternity of Penitents but, indeed, for the Church. And is it not the providence of God that we have this beautiful ceremony on the day when we we have these glorious readings for Franciscans? I mean, really? Do I have to preach? 


The first reading is about the thorn in the side. And no, Franciscans are not the thorn in the side of the Church, although sometimes they might think they are. That thorn in the side is our desires, our inordinate passions, our concupiscence. This beautiful life of self-denial, this beautiful life of living the way of St. Francis, is the remedy to the thorn. When the Lord says “My grace is sufficient for you,” what does he mean? He means that through this beautiful life of sacrifice and of penance, the grace that you receive is the very remedy for the thorn. And it is the remedy for sin itself. For it is in denying yourself that the Lord gives you the grace to master yourself, to master your passions, and so become as God has created you to be. That is ultimately what this is about.


Patrick, this pledge that you make is a particular way of life that helps you become who God created you to be. You said, before we walked in here, that you really thought that God has been calling you to this, and we agree! We think God has been calling you to this because in this life, not only will you grow in holiness, but the Church will also resound because the more people who live this way of life, the more people who live the life of penance, the life of prayer, the life of sacrifice, the greater conduit they become for grace to flow into the Church so souls can be saved. Most especially yours, right? But then also, other souls of the Church. 

Madeline clothes Patrick in his crucifix pendant.


And then of course we come the Gospel verse, that beautiful verse in between the two alleluia’s. “Jesus Christ became poor although he was rich so that by his poverty, we might become rich.” In fact, that is the mystery of the Franciscan life. It is a giving up of everything the world supposedly has to offer that we gain more than the world could ever offer. Because it is just in giving up everything that the world offers that we gain the greatest experience of the Lord and Savior, this is how we gain trust in God and not only trust in God but also the ability to live out that life in freedom and to show the world what it is that Christ beckons them to. Out of the worldliness, out of the cares, so that we might live the Gospel, so that we might have no more worries. The world has so many worries. 


One thing that I love about the Confraternity of Penitents is the uniform. You know--the uniform! The dress restrictions, right? I just think they are a great idea! As someone who wears a uniform, I know what a blessing that is! When you wake up in the morning, there is no anxiety! What should I wear? Is this appropriate? Whatever it is, there is no question. For me it is even simpler. Black or black. That’s it. I know you have a couple of variations. But regardless, it is beautiful. When we get rid of the things of the world, we do not have to worry as the world worries. And that is my prayer for you, Patrick, that as you continue to deepen your life in this beautiful pledge, and this beautiful way of life of the Confraternity of Penitents, that the worries of the world pass away and the worries of God become your worries. That is the goal. Take on the worries of God.

And what is the worry of God? God thirst for souls. He thirsts for you and for every single person on this earth. He cares not for food or for drink or for clothing. He cares for the hearts of men. And my wish for you is that your hope might be his hope, hopefully through your sacrifices and offering those for the sake of the whole world, that many more hearts might be his, that many more hearts might come to know him, love him and serve him. For that is what truly satisfies the heart, the love of God. That is the only thing that will bring happiness to the heart. 

Patrick receives the cord of life pledging.


And so the readings could not be more perfect except for this, and this puts the cherry on top. Today is Saturday and today is a day dedicated to the Blessed Mother. And that makes today so perfect. Francis knew this charism of poverty so well, but Francis himself would say that he only falls in the shadow of the Blessed Mother, following after her. And though I ask you to follow after her on this day of the Blessed Mother, I ask you to do it every day. When I thought of this beautiful pledging ceremony, I thought of seven ways that the Blessed Mother can teach you what it is to live the Rule of the Confraternity. 


The first is something that you have already done. You have received the call. The Angel Gabriel came to her and she did not shy away or run away. She listened. I think that is the first thing that you can learn from the Blessed Mother. The angel of God will come to you in many different forms, many different disguises, but however he comes, you must listen. Continuously listen to the word of God especially in Holy Scripture. The tradition of the Church says that is what Our Lady was doing when the angel came to her. She was studying the word of God. And so I hope that you study the word of God often so you, like her, might be ready to receive the call to do whatever it is he asks of you in your life. 


The second thing is obedience to the Holy Spirit. The Blessed Mother is the spouse of the Spirit. When called upon by the Holy Spirit to take on this great task of bearing Christ to the world, she obeyed. I hope that you have that obedience as well, that you might bear Christ to the world and that her words might be yours, “Let it be done unto me according to Thy word.” May you not only meditate on the word of God but may you, more and more each day, seek to practice it, to bring the word of God into the world. 

Patrick receives an embrace of welcome from all life pledged members present at the pledging Mass.


Thirdly, you might not be surprised if I point this out, but her poverty of life. She left all. She left all. She embraced not only poverty in physical things but most especially poverty in those emotional things. She gave up her good name. She gave up her credibility in the eyes of the world. She gave up caring about what people might think of her, all for the sake of God. For when she received our Lord, she did so in a precarious situation. How many people do you think believed her? “I’m pregnant, but it’s by the Holy Spirit.” “Mmm hmm, Mary.” Do you think she was free from judging eyes, from gossiping lips? In this life, you will be judged as well. You will look different. You will act different. You will live different in because you have accepted Jesus Christ radically into your life. Poverty of life. Not just poverty from material things but poverty in the way you live, and your life is not your own. So live it well, knowing that if you bear Christ, you will have a beautiful relationship with Christ. Fear not. Trudge out into the world . No gossiping lips will harm you. No judgmental stares will distract you for Christ is in your midst.

Number four. The Blessed Mother teaches us to avoid all evil. When the Holy Family fled into Egypt, what were they fleeing? Herod, right? They were fleeing from persecution. They were fleeing from evil. They were fleeing in the sense that they wanted Christ to dwell in their life. Guard your life, Patrick, so that the Lord might grow. This day the Lord is going to come into your life in a very special way and so you must guard this life. You must make sure that you flee from the world, in a sense. Do not allow the allurements of the world or the dangers to come in and to tarnish this way of life. Pray to St. Joseph who protected the Holy Family. May he protect this beautiful life of a pledged member of the Confraternity. 

Patrick with his mother, brother, and Fr. Jacob following his life pledge.

Patrick cuts his cake as the celebration begins!


Number five. Intercede for those who are in danger. In this life you will encounter those who do not realize the beauty of your life and do not realize that they themselves need to live this life, and do not realize that they need to draw away from the world. And so intercede for them just like the Blessed Mother did at Cana. The bride and groom were most especially in need of joy  which wine symbolizes in the Gospel. Be like the Blessed Mother and go to Christ our Savior and intercede for the world. This pledge is not just for yourself. It is for the Church, for all of the people of the world. Intercede for them. Offer up your sacrifices so that the world might have joy, which consists in drawing away from the world towards Christ. 

Number six. Suffer for the sake of the world as Our Lady did at the base of the cross. How often you suffer in this life! You will suffer because of poverty. You will suffer because of want. You will suffer because of so many things, but in your recognition that God is more important, you take the sufferings and turn them into joy. May you offer those sufferings up so that the world might know the joy of the Gospel. 

At the Confraternity of Penitents Headquarters, Confraternity members and friends celebrate a breakfast brunch buffet with Patrick and his family.

And last. Remember that all of these events in the Blessed Mother’s life led to her coronation in heaven. Remember that this life that you lead ultimately has a promise. And the promise of eternal happiness with the Lord is for ever. St. Paul says, “So run the race so as to win the crown.” So follow after the Blessed Mother and long for a crown like hers, a crown of humility and majesty, a crown of sorrow but of joy, a crown that brings you closer to our Lord and Savior. May this day be a day of joy for us all. May Mary, the Mother of us all, intercede for you today, Patrick, as you take on this beautiful life for yourself and for the Church. 

--Father Jacob Meyer, Visitor, Confraternity of Penitents


Wednesday, April 1, 2015

True and Perfect Joy of Saint Francis of Assisi-A New Look at an Old Story

True and Perfect Joy is a well know tale from the Fioretti (The Little Flowers of Saint Francis of Assisi). Here is the tale as told in The Little Flowers.

CHAPTER VIII


HOW ST FRANCIS, WALKING ONE DAY WITH BROTHER LEO, EXPLAINED TO HIM WHAT THINGS ARE PERFECT JOY

One day in winter, as St Francis was going with Brother Leo from Perugia to St Mary of the Angels, and was suffering greatly from the cold, he called to Brother Leo, who was walking on before him, and said to him: “Brother Leo, if it were to please God that the Friars Minor should give, in all lands, a great example of holiness and edification, write down, and note carefully, that this would not be perfect joy.” A little further on, St Francis called to him a second time: “O Brother Leo, if the Friars Minor were to make the lame to walk, if they should make straight the crooked, chase away demons, give sight to the blind, hearing to the deaf, speech to the dumb, and, what is even a far greater work, if they should raise the dead after four days, write that this would not be perfect joy.” Shortly after, he cried out again: “O Brother Leo, if the Friars Minor knew all languages; if they were versed in all science; if they could explain all Scripture; if they had the gift of prophecy, and could reveal, not only all future things, but likewise the secrets of all consciences and all souls, write that this would not be perfect joy.” After proceeding a few steps farther, he cried out again with a loud voice: “O Brother Leo, thou little lamb of God! if the Friars Minor could speak with the tongues of angels; if they could explain the course of the stars; if they knew the virtues of all plants; if all the treasures of the earth were revealed to them; if they were acquainted with the various qualities of all birds, of all fish, of all animals, of men, of trees, of stones, of roots, and of waters - write that this would not be perfect joy.” Shortly after, he cried out again: “O Brother Leo, if the Friars Minor had the gift of preaching so as to convert all infidels to the faith of Christ, write that this would not be perfect joy.” Now when this manner of discourse had lasted for the space of two miles, Brother Leo wondered much within himself; and, questioning the saint, he said: “Father, I pray thee teach me wherein is perfect joy.” St Francis answered: “If, when we shall arrive at St Mary of the Angels, all drenched with rain and trembling with cold, all covered with mud and exhausted from hunger; if, when we knock at the convent-gate, the porter should come angrily and ask us who we are; if, after we have told him, ‘We are two of the brethren’, he should answer angrily, ‘What ye say is not the truth; ye are but two impostors going about to deceive the world, and take away the alms of the poor; begone I say’; if then he refuse to open to us, and leave us outside, exposed to the snow and rain, suffering from cold and hunger till nightfall - then, if we accept such injustice, such cruelty and such contempt with patience, without being ruffled and without murmuring, believing with humility and charity that the porter really knows us, and that it is God who maketh him to speak thus against us, write down, O Brother Leo, that this is perfect joy. And if we knock again, and the porter come out in anger to drive us away with oaths and blows, as if we were vile impostors, saying, ‘Begone, miserable robbers! to the hospital, for here you shall neither eat nor sleep!’ - and if we accept all this with patience, with joy, and with charity, O Brother Leo, write that this indeed is perfect joy. And if, urged by cold and hunger, we knock again, calling to the porter and entreating him with many tears to open to us and give us shelter, for the love of God, and if he come out more angry than before, exclaiming, ‘These are but importunate rascals, I will deal with them as they deserve’; and taking a knotted stick, he seize us by the hood, throwing us on the ground, rolling us in the snow, and shall beat and wound us with the knots in the stick - if we bear all these injuries with patience and joy, thinking of the sufferings of our Blessed Lord, which we would share out of love for him, write, O Brother Leo, that here, finally, is perfect joy. And now, brother, listen to the conclusion. Above all the graces and all the gifts of the Holy Spirit which Christ grants to his friends, is the grace of overcoming oneself, and accepting willingly, out of love for Christ, all suffering, injury, discomfort and contempt; for in all other gifts of God we cannot glory, seeing they proceed not from ourselves but from God, according to the words of the Apostle, ‘What hast thou that thou hast not received from God? and if thou hast received it, why dost thou glory as if thou hadst not received it?’ But in the cross of tribulation and affliction we may glory, because, as the Apostle says again, ‘I will not glory save in the cross of our Lord Jesus Christ.’ Amen.”

This little story is usually interpreted as St. Francis teaching Brother Leo that it is better to be despised and patient in the midst of tribulation than to answer back with anger. And that is certainly part of this story. But there is more.


At the time Francis told the story, there was a great deal of tension in the Order. Francis's original vision for the Order was being challenged by those within the Order who thought they knew better and by the Church which agreed with them. So what was Francis's original vision? When Francis began his life of conversion, he started out as a penitent. He wore the garb of the peasants of the time, which was the garb of the penitents, and he lived without a permanent dwelling, without a steady income, and without any plans for the next day. Francis's life consisted in manual labor of rebuilding ruined churches, of tending lepers and the poor, of eating what people gave him for his labors, and of begging, if necessary, if they did not give him anything. His days consisted of this work with much prayer practiced between the labor.

When he began to attract followers, all of the men lived this way. They had no fixed dwellings, no steady income, and no particular plan for the day except to follow God's will. They worked alongside the people, as peasants and laborers, and ate what was given to them in exchange for their work. If they did not get sufficient food, then they would beg. And they prayed throughout the day and the night just as Francis did.

As the Order grew, it attracted more and more men, some of them quite educated and others who were already clerics or priests. These educated men were not used to manual labor because, at that time, manual labor was done by the lower classes while education was the prerogative of the upper classes. So while Francis embraced everyone who came to him, regardless of social class, those in the upper social classes, the educated classes, came without the manual skills that those in the lower classes had. In addition, those in the lower classes, those who did manual labor, for the most part could not read or write well if at all. Therefore, the way the Friars prayed the Divine Office, for example, was different. The illiterate Friars would pray a certain number of Our Father's and Glory Be's for their Office while the learned Friars would read from the breviary. Moreover, the learned Friars and the priests were more capable of engaging in preaching and spiritual ministry to the people because this was their area of training. Those who were engaged in manual labor did not have the theological background to participate in long, dogmatic discussions about the faith. The uneducated brothers' call to penance was by their work and by their simple exhortation to the people to change their way of life and to follow the Gospel. The more learned brothers could expand upon this basic text by citing Scripture verses and the teachings of theologians.

Because heresy was rampant at that time, Church officials were eager to teach the people the truth of the Catholic faith. They saw the learned Friars, who lived poor and humble lifestyles, as a way to witness to the people while also teaching them the truths of the Gospel. While it was wonderful that the uneducated Friars could work directly with the people in the fields and in their workshops, giving witness by the humility and love of their lives, the learned Friars could preach to large groups of people and exhort them to penance in churches and in the city squares. The Church officials felt that the group influence of the learned Friars far outweighed the one-on-one influence of the illiterate Friars. And so St. Francis' Order began to evolve into an Order of clerics and learned Friars, leaving the original group of Friars, the unlearned ones, in the dust behind them.

St. Francis never wavered from his original vision of an Order of men who lived poorly, simply, humbly, prayerfully among the people, working with them and preaching to them in simple words and by the simplicity of their lives. He confirmed this in the Testament which he dictated on his deathbed. "I have worked with my hands and I still wish to work."

This story on true and perfect joy is a contrast between the learned and the unlearned Friars. Note that Francis and Brother Leo, covered with dirt and mud, look like poor roving peasants when they go to the friary. The friar who opens the door does not recognize them. Note that the friar who opens the door is in a fixed dwelling. He seems to have fairly comfortable circumstances. Brother Leo and St. Francis are in uncomfortable circumstances. The learned Friar in the friary does not want to leave the poor, bedraggled Friars into the friary and, moreover, violently drives them away. This is an indication of what was happening in the Order at the time of St. Francis and what happened more extremely after his death. As the Order became more and more clerical, the illiterate and unlearned Friars were pushed more and more to the side. Eventually, years after Francis died, they were barred from holding any offices in the Order. 

During his lifetime, Francis could see that his original vision was being usurped by those who had another vision for the Order. He told the tale of true and perfect joy to indicate that, even though these changes were taking place, the Friars who adhered to simplicity, poverty, and patience in the face of injustice were the ones who would be truly joyful in the Lord for they bore the insults of Christ with the same patience that our Lord endured.

There has always been tension in the Franciscan Order to return to the original charism. This has happened in both the First and the Second orders, the Friars and the Poor Clare sisters. The Confraternity of Penitents is a return to the original charism of the Third Order, that of the laity. It is always a struggle to stay on track with the original vision of an Order, but the blessings of doing so are profound

--Madeline Pecora Nugent, CFP

Saturday, January 17, 2015

The Most Joyful Spiritual Seat Is at the Penitential Table

Or what king, going out to wage war against another king, will not sit down first and consider whether he is able with ten thousand to oppose the one who comes against him with twenty thousand? (Luke 14:31)

(Note: Those looking to deepen their spirituality sometimes do not discern where best to achieve their goal. Deacon Pasquella, a spiritual adviser to the Confraternity of Penitents, suggests that the best way to begin and progress is through honest and joyful admission of sin.)

One should always get proper spiritual direction before engaging in any form of intensive spirituality or seeking membership of any prayer group that is engaged is unique devotional practices. It is most dangerous to get involved in one form of deep spirituality or the other only to discover, after stirring up the hornets’ nest of demons, that we are not quite prepared for the battle that follows. The Lord says, “Or what king, about to go to make war against another king, does not first sit down, and think whether he be able, with ten thousand, to meet him that, with twenty thousand, comes against him?” (Luke 14: 31). We are not all called to be ‘prayer warriors’ in spiritual warfare.

However, we are all called to repentance; to do good and avoid evil. These we are enabled to do by grace received through regular prayers and frequent reception of the Sacraments. Indeed, the most comfortable and joyful spiritual seat is reserved at the penitential table. Sitting there continually, we are sorrowfully and humbly acknowledging what we truly are –sinners, and pleading for God's mercy crying: "Lord Jesus, Son of the living God, have mercy on me". And so are we confident before God and man. No pretense, no false self, and we have nothing to lose but everything to gain...God’s forgiveness. Being in a state of continual repentance is the express way to spiritual perfection. This is a stable and humble spirituality open to all. It is the spirituality of the Confraternity of Penitents.


Your servant in Christ,                                                                 
Deacon Joseph Pasquella
Diocese of Buffalo

Friday, January 16, 2015

Letter from a Confraternity of Penitents Sister in Christ

My dear brothers and sisters in Christ,
 
My name is Rhea Schoettner. I have been a pledged and privately vowed member of the CFP, since April 2, 2011. The name I chose when I pledged and vowed is sr. Benedict Mary Francis. I have always loved St. Benedict for some very special reasons and Mary is my mother! St. Francis ... well, there are no words to express my love for him! 
 
I serve as a Regional Minister for the United Kingdom, Europe, and Florida. I am also a formator, helping others in their journey towards becoming a penitent.
 
 
 
I began a group called the Francis and Clare Guild. Some of us make handmade greeting cards, others use purchased cards, and we send them to people we know who are alone, shut in, addicted, sick, etc. Someone who is in need of knowing someone cares for them. We choose people from our own lives and mail to them once a month. I began this because there are so many lonely people out there. I take care of my grandchildren for my son while he works so I can't get out and about like other people do. This was my way of being able to touch someone's life and let them know they are loved. The Guild is on Facebook if you would like to join us.
 
Living the CFP Rule of Life has changed me in so many ways. I have gained so much from the prayer life and the sacrifices we make as penitents. I live the rule in all ways except for the diet and fasting (because of unforeseen health problems). I actually have found that after adjusting to the diet part of the rule and then having to go off of it has been just as much of a sacrifice as it was when I was on it. Maybe even more so because I wanted to follow the rule completely and I can't. We don't always choose our sacrifices or even know that something is going to be a sacrifice. It is all up to God! I never imagined that having to eat the way everyday people do would be a sacrifice but it is!
 
In October of 2014 my husband and I went on vacation to Pennsylvania. It was the first time in 6 years since I had been home to see my family and friends. We managed to save enough money and set out for a fun escape for a few weeks! The day we left (after we left) a hose going to toilet in the bathroom broke. My son went to check on the house the next morning and found it full of water. He opened the front door and the water came gushing out. We notified the Landlord's agent and had to trust that she would do a good job. I will not go into detail because it is too long, but I will get straight to the point ... The rental agent did NOT do her job. She never entered our home until the day after we returned from vacation and we found mold everywhere. We lost nearly all of our furniture, all of our linens, our clothing, books that were on the bottom shelves to mold. We also lost some very sentimental items. It didn't have to happen that way. Everything could have been saved had the agent done her job!
 
 
 
I am sharing this because I learned some very valuable lessons over the last 3 months. I would like to share them because they just might help others if they ever come face to face with this kind of disaster.
 
First I learned that my CFP brothers and sisters are really my brothers and sisters. They are the only ones who helped us when we were in need. I learned that God has led me to the best place I could ever be. I will be forever grateful for the kindness and compassion the members of the Confraternity of Penitents had for us.
 
Second I learned that I am human! I think over time knowing that I had come so far in my faith journey, had placed me in a nice little nest of security. I have over the last 8 years detached from things and people who had too much control over my emotions. I learned that love is an action ... Not an emotion. And I thought I was doing very well and that I would never fall. How wrong I was. Because of the behaviour of the people responsible for the loss of our things, I became depressed. I also felt hopeless and angry and alone. I missed my THINGS! Me, who thought herself detached from the worldly things and people found myself in that dark place I had not been to in 28 years! I fell backwards in my prayer ... In my spiritual life in general. I did NOT lose my faith but I came close.
 
It was the actions of the people that depressed me the most. I could not believe that people could be so uncaring and hurtful. I forgot to trust in God. I forgot that He always has a reason for allowing things to happen. He knows best!
 
 
I woke up one day and realized that I was failing miserably ... I began to pick up my breviary again and to focus on my faith, family and home again instead of my misery. I began to focus on how to get back to the way of life I had worked so hard to build with the Confraternity of Penitents ... The life God had led me to and given me the grace to follow through with. Bottom line it isn't so easy to just get it back. It took a very long time to build it ... A few weeks to knock it down and ... A difficult time to rebuild! I didn't lose it all ... As I said I did not lose faith and I did pray ... I still kept up with the clothing rule ... It was praying of the Hours and the psalms and the meditation and reading that I failed to do. I became so engrossed in fixing everything and feeling depressed that I forgot to do those things that keep me going everyday!
 
There is a saying that if the devil can't get you to sin in everyday ways he makes you busy ... THIS IS TRUE ... I am just now pulling myself up and out of the hole I was in. I hope I never become so sure of myself again (in regards to faith) that I don't see I am already falling. It is the prayer together with the sacrifice that aids us everyday. It makes the hard things less difficult. It makes us strong and able to withstand the trials in life. I almost let that go. I am so thankful for the Confraternity because at all times it remained on my mind and I know it was God's way of nagging me ... Telling me to get back to the right way of life ... His way of life.
 
I guess the main message is that it is easy to think we are growing in holiness and can't fall like we used to. That is a great lie ... One we all need to keep in mind! I will end here and I hope each and everyone of my brothers and sisters in the Confraternity are filled with the love of God and are given all of the graces needed to face every trial with hope and trust in God!
 
God Bless you all ... Pax et bonum,
Rhea (sr. Benedict Mary Francis)

Tuesday, January 13, 2015

Bishop Kevin Rhoades Offers Mass for Confraternity of Penitents


THURSDAY AFTER EPIPHANY – JANUARY 8, 2015 

On January 8, 2015, the Confraternity of Penitents was honored to have Bishop Kevin Rhoades accept our invitation to offer Mass in the Confraternity of Penitents house chapel and to remain afterwards for a pot luck luncheon. The photo was taken following the Mass, in the Confraternity House (chapel behind the group through the open doorway). Confraternity members from Indiana and Ohio were present at Mass and gathering. The Mass was concelebrated by Father Jacob Meyer, CFP Visitor, and Father Danial Johnson, Spiritual Assistant for Our Mother of Perpetual Help CFP Circle that meets in Delphos, OH. Father George Gabet, pastor of Sacred Heart Church, Fort Wayne, IN, was also present. Not shown in the photo is Tim Luncsford who works as an on site volunteer for the Confraternity. He was also present but was taking the photo.

Bishop Kevin Rhoades with Confraternity members and fellow priests, following the Mass he offered for the Confraternity of Penitents in the International Headquarters House Chapel (behind). Shown also Fr. Jacob Meyer, CFP Visitor (priest to right and rear of Bishop Rhoades) and Fr. Daniel Johnson and Fr. George Gabat, between Fr. Daniel and the Bishop.

There follows here Bishop Rhoades' homily at the Mass in the Confraternity of Penitents House Chapel. Bishop Rhoades' homily focused on the Confraternity of Penitents Motto "You shall love the Lord your God with your whole heart, with your whole soul, and with all your mind, (and) you shall love your neighbor as yourself." (Jesus's words as recorded in Matthew 22:37-38)

+ We are still in the Christmas season which ends this Sunday, the feast of the Baptism of the Lord.
 
+ Wonderful readings last week and this week from the first letter of Saint John.  Saint John, the beloved disciple, wrote 5 New Testament books: the Gospel of John, the three letters, and the book of Revelation.  A major theme: love (God’s love and our vocation to love).  Recall the famous words in the Gospel of John (the famous 3:16): “God so loved the world that He gave His only Son, so that everyone who believes in Him might not perish but might have eternal life.”  This is what we have been celebrating during this Christmas season – the gift of the Incarnation – the Word becoming flesh and dwelling among us.   

+  When Saint John wrote his three letters, he was addressing a difficult problem in his communities at the end of the first century.  Many were being led astray by false teachers who were denying the truth of the Incarnation, the truth that the Son of God became flesh.  He called them “antichrists.”  They believed in Jesus but they denied that He came in the flesh.  They claimed they were being led by the Spirit.  Saint John makes it clear that it was not the Spirit of God, the Spirit of truth, that was guiding them, but the spirit of deceit, the father of lies.  This heretical group also claimed that they loved God, but they were not loving their neighbor nor keeping the commandments.  They hated the other members of the Christian community.  That’s why Saint John wrote in today’s reading: “If anyone says, ‘I love God’, but hates his brother, he is a liar; for whoever does not love a brother whom he has seen cannot love God whom he has not seen.” 

This teaching of Saint John is very challenging.  He says we are liars if we say we love God and hate our neighbor.  Being a liar means being on the devil’s side since the devil is the father of lies.  Loving God means we keep his commandments.  John writes: “For the love of God is this, that we keep his commandments.”  The principal commandment is charity, therefore, it is not possible to love God without loving one’s neighbor.  Love of God and love of neighbor are inseparable!  The true disciple of Christ loves God and neighbor.   

Earlier in this first letter of John, Saint John wrote that “God is love.”  This is a profound truth of Christianity.  With love, He sent us his Son.  This was entirely gratuitous.  In today’s reading, he reminds us that “we love God because he first loved us.”  But there is a requirement attached to God’s gift of love, that of sharing it with others.  The love for others brings us as close as we can come on earth to union with God.  Saint Thomas Aquinas taught that in this life we come closer to God through love than through knowledge.    

Saint John tells us God’s commandments are not burdensome, for whoever is begotten by God conquers the world.  And the victory that conquers the world is our faith.”  So faith and love are connected.  Our faith in Jesus, lived through love, enables us to conquer the world.  This is what our world so desperately needs.  It is the only way to true and lasting peace.  There is no justice nor peace without forgiveness and love.   

The Eucharist we now celebrate is the sacrament of love as Jesus comes to us, His Body broken and His blood poured out for us, giving us the grace and strengthen to love one another as He has loved us. 

May God help all of us to live our vocation to love!  This is what makes life meaningful and beautiful.  

--Bishop Kevin Rhoades